when you point the finger and declare "It's all YOUR fault!" -- even when you're talking to yourself

expecting others (or even yourself) to do things according to some unspoken rule or timeframe

assuming the other person feels or thinks a certain way, based on their behavior

our brains are wired to remember the negative more vividly, but being AWARE of this helps offset it

assuming a situation IS or would BE a catastrophe -- something we couldn't handle, a deal-changer