Blaming and Shaming

when you point the finger and declare "It's all YOUR fault!" -- even when you're talking to yourself

This might sound like:

“I always mess things up.”
“Whenever HE is around, this happens.”
“She always makes me do/ feel…”
“Why can’t you ever do it right?”
“It’s all because of the government/ other group!”

You might find it helpful to switch this to:

This is not my fault, but what can I LEARN from this?
Perhaps I need to try doing this when I am alone, or with a different coworker.
I feel aggitated around her. I must be hanging onto some unrealistic expectations.
May I show you a more effective way to do this?
The government/ other group creates a greater challenge for me to excel at this.

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